I had a marriage website passed on to me recently by my wife (who received it from a mutual friend). I have no comment on the site. It seemed rather nondescript to me, so I didn’t click around much. But one thing really struck me from the front page. Their currently running poll was:

Was the last fight you had with your spouse worth it? Yes / No

Such a simple question, and it drives the point home really effectively. (That point being, of course, that most of the time, fights are not worth it.) After voting, I was further surprised to see that a whopping 29% voted Yes. I would have expected something in the single digits!

I can count on one hand the arguments and fights I’ve had with my wife that actually produced some good. The vast majority… I wish they were curtailed, defused, derailed, or prevented.

They next time you’re about to engage your spouse in a heated argument, think about whether it’ll be worth it or not. Aim for peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, sincere love, forgiveness and reconciliation. it’s not worth it I think it’s better for you to be reconciled with your spouse than to be the winner of a long argument.